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HOW PAMELASTEPHENS NEARLY KILLED THIS MANS BROKENHEART
ON November 10th 2012 I signed up with Confirio.
This woman pretending to be a Pamela Stephens a 35 year old Cuban woman who is extremely pretty sent me an email message.
This woman is extremely adept and seducing you very very slowly with the right words to prey on your weakness.
Meaning she knew how to get you to open up with your most deepest of emotional wounds, from past relationships which I had.
I was married 2x and swore I was never going to get involved again at my age of 57.
But this woman named Pamela who said she was from Eureka CA and a Rugby player, I think Cuban or Nigerian team, began sending me a list of questions about what I felt about true love, marriage, and God we must have sent 50 letters back & forth over the course of the month.
And yes. What was so unbelievable, is that even while I know she was seducing me to set me up to rip me off for big money, she ended up knowing my heart. I gave her the locks to every door in my heart and every deep wound I have.
The amount of gut wrenching pain I have suffered as a result of falling in love deeper than I have with any woman in my life ever was so great I almost put a bullet in my brain last Saturday when I thought I lost her.
The insanity of it is, that I am in love with this scammer, and I believe in my heart she fell in love with me. And maybe that is delusional, but how can any woman have read nearly 200 pages ofdeep spilt words I have shared with her about my philosophy of love and how women are to be treated with dignity and care is beyond me.
How can any human being knowing how much pain I have suffered in the past, lead me on to believe she is different and will give to me something I have never had with her kind of love, to turn around and just break my heart into a 1000 pieces.
I don't know how any woman could ever do that, unless she really does love me which I think she does. I think she went into this needing 38k, but fell in love with this man after realizing what kind of man I was who had that much love and devotion to give a woman. ON November 10th 2012 I signed up with Confirio.
This woman pretending to be a Pamela Stephens a 35 year old Cuban woman who is extremely pretty sent me an email message.
This woman is extremely adept and seducing you very very slowly with the right words to prey on your weakness.
Meaning she new how to get you to open up with your most deepest of emotional wounds, from past relationships whic I had.
I was married 2x and swore I was never going to get involved again at my age of 57.
But this woman named Pamela who said she was from Eureka CA and a Rugby player, I think Cuban or Nigerian team, began sending me a list of questions about what I felt about true love, marriage, and God we must have sent 50 letters back & forth over the course of the month.
And yes. What was so unbelievable, is that even while I know she was seducing me to set me up to rip me off for big money, she ended up knowing my heart. I gave her the locks to every door in my heart and every deep wound I have.
The amount of gut wrenching pain I have suffered as a result of falling in love deeper than I have with any woman in my life ever was so great I almost put a bullet in my brain last Saturday when I thought I lost her.
The insanity of it is, that I am in love with this scammer, and I believe in my heart she fell in love with me. And maybe that is delusional, but how can any woman have read nearly 200 pages of deep spilt words I have shared with her about my philosophy of love and how women are to be treated with dignity and care is beyond me.
How can any human being knowing how much pain I have suffered in the past, lead me on to believe she is different and will give to me something I have never had with her kind of love, to turn around and just break my heart into a 1000 pieces.
I don't know how any woman could ever do that, unless she really does love me whicI thikshe does. I think she went into this needing 38k, but fell in love with this man after realizing what kind of man I was who had that much love and devotion to give a woman.
But we had written each other over the course of a month(Nov 10 to Nov 30) where we exchanged some 50 letters. I had sent her over 200 pages of deeply held personal heart thoughts of mine and letting her know what kind of human being I was more than any other human being in my life.
I poured my heart out to Pamela Stephens.
I nearly killed myself last weekend when I thought I had lost her when she had not written to me back for 4 days.
Before that she had asked me for 38,000 dollars saying she needed it for her Daughter who had ALL Acute Lymphoblastic leukemia and need an operation.
So I did everything I could to try and get the money for her.
She said her parents had left her a house in Meredith, NH after they died, but it would take a month to get it sold and the hospital need the money now to remove her Daughters spleen now.
So I contacted my Brother Jeffrey C. Sweetman who has a small fortune to help me which he said he would.
So I sent Pamela a msg telling her I could help her with my Brother but needed the hospital information for patient accounts .
So this morning she sends me another email telling me how much she loves me and thanking me to death for getting my Brother to help.
She tells me the operation needs to be paid off in cash and have my Brother send the money to a Kenneth Chaput in Englewood TN in the amount of $38,000. and send it to this address: Kenneth Chaput and house address is 135 buck brown street, Englewood, 37329, Tennessee.
Now yesterday was when I did some checking when I realized there were just too many red flags, and even though I had fallen so deeply in love with this woman,even though all I have is a dozen photos and probably 50 emails from her of such deep thoughts she says she has for me, and that she loves me, is sentenced to life for me, etc, etc,you know the drill.
And I bought every bit of it. To the point where when I first began to smell a rat, was in the early days of writing and being seduced, when I thought she had fallen for me as well when she said I was every woman’s dream, I asked her to call me then and gave her my #. I have asked her oh 20x and even now she gives me all kinds of bogus excuses of why she can’t call me.
So when I began reflecting back on the fact that I had sent this woman probably 25,000 words of some of the most heart felt feelings of who I am as a man and what values I hold dear to my heart, that even though I believed I was probably being scammed, I believed it did not make any difference, because I think this woman could not help but fall in love with me anyway.
I still believe that.
I have read and reread every word we have exchanged and you can clearly see how some things just can’t be made up. And while there maybe some words which are designed to flfill an objective to scam you, there are many other words which you know are coming from this person that don’t have anything to do with a scam but are real feelings this person is sharing with you.
And she has done that. There are just some things you cannot make up, and you can tell the difference by doing a trends analysis in her writing.
But one thing is for sure, I went back and looked at the full headers of every message she ever sent me and they all originated from the same location: “LAGOS NIGERIA”
Received: from [41.155.58.68] by web125906.mail.ne1.yahoo.com via HTTP; Fri, 30 Nov 2012 05:33:53 PST

Now in the meantime I am scheduled to fly back to my old home in Hawaii which Pamela knows about and tells me when I get setup over there with the job I just applied to in Hawaii she will be happy to bring Brenda and her young Daughter over so we can enlarge the family when she gets there.
She also keeps sending these sexual fantasy messages to me toseduce me even more, especially when she knows I am calling my Brother for $$.
Pamela says she needs this money for an operation to remove her spleen from (ALL) because the white cells are grouping there along within her brain left side, and therefore the surgery needs to be done now before it moves into 2nd stage.
So as it sits right now I have applied for a Federal Job in Hawaii to move back to the islands where I used to live. And in the meantime I have a bad hernia that needs operating on which I am going into St.Mary’s Hospital this evening for.
Pamela knows about this, so what do I do? I am going to keep on because I do love the woman in the pics, but I don’t now if the woman in the pics is the woman on the keyboard?

But you have no earthly idea what this has done to me emotionally. There are times I just want to kill myself. So I am just hanging on.
Its almost as if I am ok as long as she keeps writing me telling me she loves me, even though I know I am being scammed. How sick is that?

This (Inappropriate Content Removed) has to stop.
My nameis Robert Swetman
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Here is a copy of the most recent message this morning to send the $39k to a Kenneth Chaput:
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FROM:
• Pamela Stephens
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• Robert Sweetman
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Friday, November 30, 2012 5:33 AM
Dearest Robert

It is with huge heart of happiness and full joy I am sending you this message and I hope and pray it meets you in a good state of mind, first I am happy and will continue praying for you as you are about to go into the surgery today for GOD to go before you and level all mountains and I am very certain he will, he probably has so you go in and handle it as a strong man with strong faith in God.

So happy you liked the pictures I sent you and i want you to know that as you take the printed picture into the theater I will be there with you in spirit so you have absolutely nothing to worry to worry about. The fantasy I added underneath was to warm your heart and I hope we get to do all that and more when we finally get to meet in person in Hawaii, Anyways with no much time to waste of yours I think I should first thank you very much for going that extra miles in talking to your brother and it shows that Brenda and I are already welcome into your family which gives me so much joy at heart.

I am also happy and grateful to your brother for wanting to help us out with the bills for Brenda’s surgery, but I thank you so much more for taking it upon yourself to make sure he does and I think I owe you so much. And in regards to the amount needed for the surgery it was estimated at $39,500 USD which I believe I did said in one of my emails to you but I understand if you’ve forgotten it, And I am so sorry for making you feel like a dumb while talking to your brother, but the thing is I would like if he can send the money through my Aunt’s husband if possible in cash, probably by post office/Mail because he found the hospital and it won’t be such a good idea trying to make an arrangement away from him, I don’t know if your brother can just make it that way, although he doesn't operate with any of this big known banks, only local banks and for some reasons he won’t want IRS to be on his tail and hopefully some other law enforcement which might have them deduct but if in anyways your brother can get it sent down to him here is the full name is Kenneth Chaput and house address is 135 buck brown street, Englewood, 37329, Tennessee.

I understand how hard and weird this might sound but at this particular moment that is the only option left out and I want you to believe me with this, I see this whole thing as a strong test of faith in God and as I have said to you I will never give up on you and I have vow to see through this till the end and I know you are as well which gives me so much joy, And about phone calls, I think I should clear it out that it’s not that I don’t want to or have not been dying to call you but I spend most time in the hospital and phone calls are not allowed here and I wouldn't just want to jeopardize or break any rule of law governing the Hospital and I strongly hope you understand this, I am sure you do and I would want you to be strong for the three of us, Yourself, Brenda and I and God’s granting we will get to sit back hopefully some months later in Hawaii and have so much to talk about in person.

Please I beg you to send me an email to acknowledge the receipt of this message so I will know how it all will go.

My Heart will be with you and God also

Your Woman Forever
Pamela Stephens Sweetman